REPOSTING: The 101 on Connecting with Your In-Laws by MomCenter.PH

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Dad, Mom, Baby… and In-Laws? The 101 on Connecting with Your In-Laws

It’s part of our culture to maintain close ties with extended family. More often than not, we grow up playing with our cousins, always seeing our titos and titas, and spending time with our grandparents. Hence, when we say ‘family,’ we refer to almost all the relatives we know.

Thus, more often than not, we know that our own children will be brought up knowing their extended families. These extended families include not only relatives from our side, but also from that of our husband.

Once a baby is born, the two families become more deeply connected. Married or not, our baby links these two families. We can’t ignore the fact that there’s a whole other side of the family our baby is related to, and so this should motivate us to develop these relationships or at the very least, maintain civil connections.

So how do we beat the myth (often a lie) that our in-laws are out to get us?

1. Get to know your in-laws. For me, when I look at my husband, I realize how grateful I am for my in-laws who raised him to be a man of steadfast faith, honesty, and commitment. In getting to know my in-laws, I get to know my husband more. I’m sure many of you can relate. It doesn’t have to be complicated. One way to get to know your in-laws is to engage in conversations with them and discover their likes, dislikes, hobbies, etc.

If you’re married, you didn’t just marry your husband, you also married his family. Your husband is who and what he is because of his roots.

2. Be present in their events and celebrations. Take note of important occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. Attend family gatherings. Just as we want our husband to attend our side’s special occasions, they also want us to be there in their side’s celebrations.

When you do attend, make sure that you’re really there. Be present in mind and body: interact and celebrate with them.

3. Never start a fight. It’s a general rule that we ought to choose our battles wisely. As moms, we have our own parenting styles and non-negotiables. There may be times when our in-laws might take a different approach in interacting with our children. Let’s face it – as a rule, grandparents will spoil our children. For the most part, we can let them, but when it comes to our non-negotiables or when our parental authority becomes confusing to our kids, then we should take our stand without having to fight with them.

If there’s something about your in-laws that contradicts your non-negotiables, it’s best to first talk to your husband. He would be in a better position to discuss issues with his side.

4. Learn to listen. Our own side will be giving a lot of unsolicited advice on marriage and parenting. So will our in-laws. If we really listen, we’ll realize that most of them actually make sense. Not all the advice may be practical or applicable, but they make sense if we consider their own experiences.

You don’t have to apply everything your in-laws say but listening will actually help you. You’ll learn more than you expect – not just about marriage and parenting, but also about your husband. So don’t be so quick to dismiss what your in-laws have to say. Listen to them as much as you’d want them to listen to you.

5. Allow them to spend time with your child. Your bundle of joy is a bundle of joy to them as well. Let them play with your kid and take care of him/her while you’re at work or on date night. Let them get to know and be proud of your child. But don’t expect them to discipline your kid and fulfill all your parental duties. Disciplining your child is a shared responsibility between you and your husband.

6. Let them get to know you too. In order for all of you to truly be a family, you need to be comfortable around them. You can only do this by letting them get to know who you are as a wife, as a mom, and as a person. Share your interests and experiences with them and be honest with them. There’s no perfect woman, so don’t waste your energy trying to be one in front of your in-laws. Be yourself. You owe that to your husband, your child, and most especially, yourself.

7. Spend time with them and do things together. When you’re comfortable enough, spend time with your in-laws even if your husband or child isn’t there. Have coffee with them, shop with your MIL/SIL, call them up just to talk, share recipes, plan parties or trips with them, etc. Your relationship with your husband and the existence of your child illustrate that you must have similar interests with your in-laws. Don’t be afraid to be part of their family in the same way that you want your husband to be comfortable with yours.

It’s comforting to realize that your in-laws are also part of your support group, that they too are your family. Of course, this may be hard for some, considering each mama’s unique story, but it’s not impossible to attain.

We don’t need to live in fear, anger, hesitation, or uneasiness around our in-laws. We’re already connected to them and there’s no harm in trying to make the best out of it for the sake of our husband, for the sake of our children, for our own sake, and for the sake of our family.


Our Different Coffee Breaks for the last Couple of Months

Check out our coffee breaks for the last few months.

Ah, yes! We are definitely coffee lovers! (*wink*)(*wink*)

This is by far one of the highlights of our day lately...COFFEE!

And now, I'm off to have another cup.

How about you? What adds value to your life these days?

Wednesday Happy Thoughts

Happiness is...

1. New ebooks! YEY!
2. Celebrating Hubby's Birthday
3. Soccer Tournament
4. Movie Date with the Whole Family
5. Mlik Tea and Popcorn
6. Rest
7. Helpers
8. Freshly Brewed Coffee
9. Blogging
10. Project Life App

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Coffee TIME.

My favorite time of the day is the start of the work day. WHY?

Because of this...

C.O.F.F.E.E. T.I.M.E.!

I just love smelling the freshly brewed coffee in my coffee mug. The feeling of excitement and the feeling after drinking it. Yes, it is definitely my favorite time of the day!

How about you? What's your favorite time of the day?

The Most Beautiful Things in Life...

Sharing a Song this SUNDAY: It's Good to be Alive by Benji Jackson feat Pinkzebra

REPOSTING: You Deserve it! Easy Ideas for Quick Me-time Moments for Moms by Michelene Lagdameo of MomCenter.PH

Itching for a Me time, Moms? You don't have to go somewhere, check out these tips grabbed from MomCenter.PH...

You Deserve it! Easy Ideas for Quick Me-time Moments for Moms by Michelene Lagdameo

Ask any mama and she will tell you that a whole day (or weekend, even!) to herself to do absolutely everything she wants is all she wants for her birthday, Mother’s Day, and Christmas! Free time is a concept that most moms crave the most, and the truth it, we honestly deserve it. However, any mama will also tell you that a whole day free of responsibilities is entirely too unfeasible (which is why it’s often reserved for the aforementioned birthday, Mother’s Day, and other special holidays!)

There’s no need to neglect your self-care, though. You can carve out some me-time daily—even just 30 minutes of time for yourself can work wonders in restoring your sanity and giving you time to decompress. Here are inexpensive and easy ideas for busy moms who need to catch a break.

DIY Spa in The Bathroom

Take 30 minutes to light a nice scented candle or two, stream some soothing music on Spotify, and apply a calming sheet mask in the comfort of your bathroom. You can easily buy facial masks from beauty stores, or you can make your own organic mask with simple pantry ingredients!

YouTube Workout
Whether you want soothing yoga or high-intensity dance, there are quick and detailed workout videos easily searchable online. Prop up your phone or iPad and follow along, no equipment or gym membership required! Also, you can download several free apps like NTC or Sworkit, so you next “gym session” is waiting for you right on your phone.

Daily Devotional

Invest in a daily devotional book or download guides off the internet. You can set aside time in a quiet space to read a passage or two, reflect on the daily lesson, and note a few points (or pour out a few feelings) on a journal. It can be as spiritual as you want—check out The Power of A Praying Wife—or even something as simple as The Happiness Project.

Coffee, Tea, and Me

Brew yourself a cup of coffee or tea and just breathe for a bit! If you have a favorite spot at home, or like to hang out in your kitchen, allow yourself a few uninterrupted moments of peace while the smell of coffee or tea wafts all around you. The smell is known to energize you as you go through the rest of your day!

Color Therapy

The adult coloring book craze may be a little over, but that doesn’t mean you can’t reap the calming benefits of letting your artistic side show. Half an hour is enough time to completely color a simple illustration, and you’ll love the sense of accomplishment it will give you.

Regardless of how you spend your “break time,” the important thing is never to feel guilty about it—mamas need to look out for themselves too! So invest time in what makes you smile, even if it’s just for a few minutes each day. You’ll be a happier and healthier mom for it, and you family will feel the difference.


Kidzania for the Kid's 2016 Birthday Celebration

How did we celebrate a kids' birthday last year? We went to Kidzania!

And, since this is already their third time, they already have their favorite booths!

Made deliveries for parcels...

Someone's dreaming of being a Pet Doctor someday!

And look the Dad is enjoying too.

And the highlight for this trip to kidzania...

The Hall of Justice. Wow. It was indeed a fun day for all of us!

Would we ever come back again? Yes and hopefully soon!

Wednesday Happy Thoughts

Happiness is...

1. Relaxing Weekend
2. Long Naps!
3. eBooks and hard to put down stories!
4. Freshly Brewed Coffee on a Wednesday
5. Households
6. Prayers
7. Never ending Blessings ♥♥♥
8. Plans for the year
9. Workouts
10. Bright Future

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One Foggy Weekend in Tagaytay

A couple of months ago, Hubby and I went to Tagaytay to attend a Marriage Encounter Retreat. It was the month of October so we were excited that the weather would turn cold.


Well, it was foggy and the weather was just RIGHT.

Here's a nice welcome treat from the hotel...

And then the highlight of our retreat - The Renewal of Vows.

Happy to get married again with this guy! (*wink*)

It was a fun weekend. Hopefully we can attend again this year!