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Sharing a Song this SUNDAY: It's Time by Imagine Dragons

REPOSTING: The Dangers of Comparison from MomCentre.com.ph

For all the Moms (and Dads too), this one is a nice read...

The Dangers of Comparison from MomCentre.com.ph

Why Your Social Media Envy May Be More Harmful Than You Think

Have you ever found yourself enviously scrolling over the feed of a friend, feeling sorry for yourself, and wishing that you either a) looked like her b) achieved as much as she did 3) had a family as perfect and happy as hers? 4) lived her life and not yours?

Guilty.

Don’t worry mama, you are not alone. You are one of the many women who beat themselves up daily over the pains of not doing, having, achieving, and being enough.

And who could blame us? We live in an age where we know way more about one another than any generation in history. To look over one’s fence and to wonder if the grass is truly greener on the other side has never been easier thanks to the numerous social media platforms we have at our fingertips.

We know the milestones, the mishaps, and the mundane details of the lives of people who might as well be strangers in our social media networks. We have commoditized our daily life choices–gramming, snapping, and sharing every moment of our lives hoping to get paid, or at the very least recognized for what we do. But all of this attention seeking, and in turn, social stalking often leads us to competing and thus comparing our lives to those of our peers. And that never feels good, does it?

Comparing ourselves to others does much more harm than we realize. Here are the dangers of comparison we may not know.

1. Comparison hurts yourself, and those you love. When we compare ourselves to others, we hurt ourselves by believing the lie that we are not enough. In our efforts to “keep up with the kardashians” often what happens is that we get stuck in an endless rat race that leaves us feeling empty, dissatisfied, and unfulfilled. Because the reality is that there will ALWAYS be someone prettier, richer, or smarter than ourselves, which means that there really is no finish line. And as this happens, we tend to feel dissatisfied with our own circumstances. We place the blame on our husbands, children, and even our parents, possibly making them feel as though they are “not enough” either. Here’s a classic example. A wife receives updates from her girlfriend about the numerous and expensive gifts that she receives from her husband. This wife’s envy leads her to fight with him, making him feel inadequate about what he earns. In her envy, she fails to consider the feelings of her innocent husband who may have been working hard to get a promotion to make her happy. The poor guy may have really just been a bystander in this disaster.

2. Alienating others.
Interestingly enough, comparison, even though it implies an attention directed towards others–tends to bring one’s energies inwards instead of outwards. Suddenly life becomes about “me, me, me” in order to keep up with “she, she, she”. When we are constantly comparing, our actions and thoughts then become increasingly self-centered….alienating those who may even want to kill to be in our shoes. Those parts of our lives what we feel are “not enough” may be the unanswered prayers of our neighbor…and our unhealthy fixation on what we are lacking. Example: “My children are driving me crazy! 3 children is one too many!”…a woman might accidentally say in front of her best friend who is struggling with infertility. Or, “Ugh, we need to postpone our trip to Japan this year, because of a conflict in my husband’s schedule”…a complaint she might share with someone who can barely afford a local vacation. Comparison drives us inward, alienating those around us.

3. Failing to recognize the blessings that surround you. When we focus on what we lack, we fail to recognize the blessings that surround us. We fail to recognize and appreciate the sweet yet simple gestures of love from our husbands, the funny antics of our children, our stable jobs, and the modest but cozy homes we have over our heads. In the words of C.S. Lewis, “comparison is the thief of joy.” When we compare ourselves to others, we rob ourselves of the opportunity to be grateful for all the good things we have going on in our lives, despite the challenges we are facing. We nitpick our our efforts, our achievements, and our loved ones only to end up unhappy.

So is it worth it? All that time we spend on our screens, watching the lives of others instead of living and enjoying our own?

Let’s strive to be more aware and discerning of our feelings, thoughts and emotions while we use social media. A solution may be to limit the time we spend on our screens, or to simply avoid profiles that provoke us completely. The good news for all of this is that our actions are within our control, and that it is just a matter of protecting ourselves from situations and habits that could lead us to harm…because the consequences of our actions could go beyond ourselves.

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2016 Roadtrip to La Union: Our Breakfast at Jetsam and Floatsam Hostel

Another highlight of our stay in San Juan, La Union, our quick breakfast at Jetsam and Floatsam Hostel.


Good thing our hotel was located just a couple of walks from this hostel so we were able to take the opportunity to check out the place and try their breakfast too!

The coffee was not a big deal though, but this Makai bowl was so refreshing!


Just looking at that photo made me go hungry and crave for another bowl! YUM!


We just stayed for another couple of hours here. It was relaxing...


I'm so glad we tried this place! Check it out too!

Flotsam and Jetsam Hostel
12500 MacArthur Highway, Urbiztondo, San Juan, La Union, 2514, Philippines
T +63-9178021328
E flotjetlife@gmail.com
www.flotsamandjetsamhostel.com

2016 Roadtrip to La Union: The Kids' First Concert at Le Point Bar! Woot!

Yes you read that right. Our kids went on a concert in La Union. We all did!


And the best part? It was by the beach and it was FREE!




Cool huh? I couldn't believe that we would bring the kids to a concert this soon. HA! And look at these sleepy heads...


We all had so much fun! It was an experience we will never forget. ♥♥♥

Best.Night.Ever.!

Wednesday Happy Thoughts

Happiness is...

1. Freshly brewed coffee every morning! ♥
2. Happy and Relaxing weekend
3. Bonding with Family
4. Playing soccer with the kids
5. New friends
6. Great articles for Parents
7. New ebooks
8. New Adventures soon!
9. Long weekends
10. Online (Window) Shopping

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2016 Roadtrip to La Union: Dinner at Surf Shack

After a fun day of swimming, watching movies and just bumming around, we decided to have dinner at one of the famous restaurants in San Juan, La Union.

Good thing we were early and there were seats available for us.

And, here are our favorites during our dinner at Surf Shack...


These nachos and lemonade were really good!


But I like my burritos more!


The place is a bit small though and during peak hours it could get really jampacked. So I suggest to go early during meal times. (*wink*)

Surf Shack
238 National Highway, San Juan, La Union
San Juan, La Union 2513

Every Morning...



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Sharing a Song this SUNDAY: Not Today by Imagine Dragons

REPOSTING: Mamas and Me Time: How to Find Time for Yourself By Mariel Uyquiengco from MomCenter.com


Mamas and Me Time: How to Find Time for Yourself By Mariel Uyquiengco from MomCenter.com

Loneliness expresses the pain of being alone and solitude expresses the glory of being alone. – Paul Tillich

In youth, most of us craved the company of friends, going out on all hours and filling our days with activities. Being alone was somehow always equated with being lonely, and alone time was not actively sought.

Being alone with our thoughts, however, is healthy and should be given priority no matter our age and personal circumstance. It’s called solitude. It allows us to unwind, to recharge, to discover ourselves and form our own thoughts without outside influence. More importantly, solitude re-energizes us, enabling us to give more of ourselves in what we do. As an effect, it boosts and enriches our relationships with others.

It is ironic then that it is when we become parents and much time is demanded of us that we suddenly see the value of alone time. Though it seems hard to come by, me time for moms should be actively given time in between changing diapers, preparing meals, and working in or out of the home.

Here are some ways to find some alone time.

Reserve and respect your daily alone time

Carve out your own daily alone time and respect it. Some wake up earlier than the rest of the household to pray, meditate, or have their first cup of coffee. Some wait for everyone to go to bed to relish the stillness of their home.

If you can manage it, squeezing in some me time in the middle of your busyness during the day can give you a much-needed break. Reserve at least one hour that absolutely no one is allowed to disturb you for you to do your thing: read, craft, watch a movie, etc.

Close the door


Moms are notorious for taking a shower or using the toilet with someone intently watching them – their little ones. So be it your bedroom, bathroom, or laundry room, close the door!

A 10-minute break can feel like a great deal when you’re in the midst of a busy day. Taking a catnap, reading a magazine, or drinking a steaming cup of tea by your lonesome is going to be awesome.

Run errands

Running errands is a form of me time for moms, especially on those days that everything seems to be going wrong. Some actually relish doing the mundane like lining up at the bank, wandering around the grocery aisles, or taking the car to the carwash.

If you want more me time on those errand days though, you can do everything quickly and squeeze in a few relaxed minutes in your favorite coffee shop. People-watching is therapeutic so you just need yourself and your cuppa.

Pamper yourself

Going to the salon on your own is a relaxing activity. You don’t need to chat with your friend over the loud buzzing of hair dryers. You don’t need to do anything, too, other than sit and be pampered.

Nail salons and spas are a good destination for moms in need of a good alone time. A manicure, pedicure, and a massage are the height of self-pampering.

Unplug yourself

It is important to note that when you decide to have your alone time, you really should be alone. Scrolling through your Facebook timeline and leaving comments here and there will not give you time to think and re-charge.

Unplug yourself from social media and leave your gadgets alone whether you are having your me-time at home or outside. Observe your surroundings and the people around you. Empty your mind, disengage, and enjoy your own company.

Parents who are busy attending to work, home, and kids will benefit much from having a dedicated alone time to unwind, recharge, and re-energize. Inside or outside the home, 10-minutes or 2 hours, any time spent with one’s own self is time well spent.

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