This is probably the hardest among the 7 steps to achieving greater happiness by Andrew Matthews!
Here's a recipe for permanent misery ...
Decide how you think the world SHOULD be.
Then, when life doesn't obey your rules, get angry!
That's what miserable people do!
Let's say you expect that:
* People SHOULD appreciate you.
* Planes SHOULD arrive on time.
* Your husband SHOULD remember your birthday.
Sounds reasonable ...
but often, these things won't happen!
So you end up frustrated.
Happy people make fewer DEMANDS on life.
Instead, they have PREFERENCES!
"I would prefer "A", but if "B" happens, it's OK too!"
I PREFER the neighbours to be quiet -
but if they make a noise, I can handle it.
I PREFER people to see my point of view - but when they disagree, it is OK.
You have preferences about the outcome of your plans, but you accept WHATEVER happens.
So your mission today?
Instead of making DEMANDS on life and people, have PREFERENCES.
There are two ways to become happier:
a) change the world, or
b) change your thinking.
It is easier to change your thinking!
He sure is right about that! It is easier to change your thinking than to change the world!
A few more hours and 2011 is about to start! This sure is a great way to start the year - achieve greater happiness!
Grab the 7 steps to greater happiness at Andrew Matthews website.